In about 2 hours we are meeting up at the Monee/Manhattan exit to pick up Petey the pit from Renssalier (sp?) IN. He was in a high kill shelter and origionally had an adopter in NY who backed out the day a pet pilot was arranged for transport. Tues. evening I saw the email go around that Friday was his PTS date so I emailed the rescue and now we will be fostering him. I'm nervous. I am very very very nervous and have to not show that around the dog. Pits scare me a little. I know it's a bad rap....everyone says that but I can't help but be nervous.
Duke is a total dick head and humps everything and plays rough and I don't want to be breaking up or dealing with a dog fight with my small kids around. Carl is VERY protective over the kids and us so I'm just hoping this doesn't cause a problem. 2 male dogs in the house had me worried but now 3....and one isn't neutered! Petey's getting neutered Tuesday at the latest!
Everyone tells me great things about pits, everything online has me scared sh*ttless.
Then everyone looks at me like I'm a whack job even thinking about being scared when they find out I work w/ rottie rescue and that I have a 110lb rottweiler. Even people in rescue who like pits seem to not be the biggest fans of rotties but I trust my rottie to the moon and back.
Petey has a huge head. That scares me.
Carl's head is bigger then mine. I must be nuts.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Been slacking
So I've been slacking on Blogging. I've been enjoying my time with the kids. Nearly every day we go swimming in the back yard in our little quick set pool and we do errands all the time. I have been planning Amber's 3rd b-day party too and that has been time consuming. I love party planning though. I'm also helping my sister w/ some minor early stage wedding planning (sending her places to check out and what not). I called the baker today about Amber's b-day cake and sent my sister the info so she'd have the baker for the wedding cake.
I've been going to the chiropractor and having adjustments. My back has been in some bad shape lately.
So onto fertility talk LOL. This weekend AF is due. I'm getting nervous since we did try for a while, then my back went out. We were together 3 times supposedly during "O" time. So we'll see. We haven't been together in over a week now because of my back. We tried one night and hubby was to distracted by the obvious pain I was in. Stinkin' back! Urgh. Ruining intimate time! Anyways, I took a test earlier in the week at the "5 day before a missed period mark" it couldn't tell. Stupid 5 day early tests. With my luck I'm all up in a hopeful dither for nothing. I really want this month to be our month. I am so ready to be pregnant again and complete our family. 3 is our number. Considering I've already been pregnant 5 times! urgh. I just want my last little baby to hold in my arms. I hope God sends her back to me.
So I've been naughty and enjoying a few cocktails because this might be the end of the cocktails for me. But either way I've decided, if AF comes this weekend then I am done w/ the drinks until our anniversary in FL, then I will have a drink to celebrate our 5 year. I want a healthier body, healthier life style. Not like I have a problem. Giving up alcohol is never a problem for me, but I do enjoy a glass of wine every night and I know they say red wine is good for you, but I'm having a glass of white right now Ha! Last night I had a mint julip actually and it was delicious. I've already started eating better and cut back the caffeine to 1 cup of coffee in the morning and that's it. VERY RARELY do I even have a cola during the day. I've also had sushi a few times this month and I'm getting in my lunch meat intake here & there since if I get a BFP this weekend I know I have to cut it all out. I guess this is my fun month LOL. I really hope AF doesn't show up this weekend.
Today I bought tickets for a Day out with Thomas in August so we can take the kids. I think it will be a fun time. It's kind of like an extended birthday gift to Amber. It was $65 about for the 3 of us (Jack is free since he's under 2). Our garage sale is going to be this weekend too and tomorrow my MIL is taking the kids for the day so it'll be nice to have an afternoon off. I have some books I plan on taking to this book store I found to sell (It's a family owned used book store). I love reading so the prospects of getting more books on trade in is awesome!
I've been going to the chiropractor and having adjustments. My back has been in some bad shape lately.
So onto fertility talk LOL. This weekend AF is due. I'm getting nervous since we did try for a while, then my back went out. We were together 3 times supposedly during "O" time. So we'll see. We haven't been together in over a week now because of my back. We tried one night and hubby was to distracted by the obvious pain I was in. Stinkin' back! Urgh. Ruining intimate time! Anyways, I took a test earlier in the week at the "5 day before a missed period mark" it couldn't tell. Stupid 5 day early tests. With my luck I'm all up in a hopeful dither for nothing. I really want this month to be our month. I am so ready to be pregnant again and complete our family. 3 is our number. Considering I've already been pregnant 5 times! urgh. I just want my last little baby to hold in my arms. I hope God sends her back to me.
So I've been naughty and enjoying a few cocktails because this might be the end of the cocktails for me. But either way I've decided, if AF comes this weekend then I am done w/ the drinks until our anniversary in FL, then I will have a drink to celebrate our 5 year. I want a healthier body, healthier life style. Not like I have a problem. Giving up alcohol is never a problem for me, but I do enjoy a glass of wine every night and I know they say red wine is good for you, but I'm having a glass of white right now Ha! Last night I had a mint julip actually and it was delicious. I've already started eating better and cut back the caffeine to 1 cup of coffee in the morning and that's it. VERY RARELY do I even have a cola during the day. I've also had sushi a few times this month and I'm getting in my lunch meat intake here & there since if I get a BFP this weekend I know I have to cut it all out. I guess this is my fun month LOL. I really hope AF doesn't show up this weekend.
Today I bought tickets for a Day out with Thomas in August so we can take the kids. I think it will be a fun time. It's kind of like an extended birthday gift to Amber. It was $65 about for the 3 of us (Jack is free since he's under 2). Our garage sale is going to be this weekend too and tomorrow my MIL is taking the kids for the day so it'll be nice to have an afternoon off. I have some books I plan on taking to this book store I found to sell (It's a family owned used book store). I love reading so the prospects of getting more books on trade in is awesome!
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Busy past 2 days
My best friend was in from Arizona for the past two days and it has been non stop. It has been an amazing breath of fresh air. She is helpful with the kids and we have had a lot of fun but we never got one on one time out together so I feel like we were just consumed with the kids and rushed non-stop. We didn't get to talk about much and I hope that the next time she's in town we get some one on one time. We did go to the outlet yesterday. I bought a new Vera Bradley purse that I LOVE and I got the kids some things from Gymboree. She went a little crazy and spent like $100 at Carters on the Buy one get one free sale and like $100 at Osh Gosh on the kids! My daughter will be the most stylish girl in pre-school for sure! We met up with my sister and her fiance at their condo and went out for lunch and then to babies r us because I needed a few things for the kids. Again, my friend treated. She takes her Godmother duties very serious. She even bought them some toys. We went for ice cream after that and then called it a day. I had an hour commute home. This morning she was here bright and early and we took the kids to lil monkey bizness and then to sesame inn for some thai and sushi. It was so yummy. The kids had some sweet & sour chicken. We went to visit Bob at the club for a little bit and then swung by Target because last night I found out I was nearly out of diapers. It always works that way, after leaving a baby store you find something you needed to buy when you get home. After that we hung out at home for a little bit and I was able to talk to her about some important things that I needed to discuss about a will we plan on having written up. My husband & I took the kids to Jason's Deli for dinner (I had an amazing salad!) and then we came home. I won't have a computer for a few days because he needs to use our home one at work so I figured I'd get in some blogging while I could.
Monday, July 18, 2011
wow
So today when my husband got home he told me that he told his mom we might be pregnant in the fall, that we are trying for #3. I am in shock! I also told my mom. This is the first time we've told our parents anything about creating people. LOL. She had nothing to say about it either, which is not like her. We are trying now, we aren't telling our parents that yet because I know both mom's think we should wait until the end of the summer since I just suffered my miscarriage June 1, 2011.
My children decided that today was an awesome day not to nap. Thankfully around 1pm they did finally fall asleep for a little while. I was able to set up the water table and pool in the back yard. We had this strange meat concoction that I made for dinner that I thought was good. The kids hated it. I cooked a pan of ground beef and tossed it in the crock pot on warm (not cook since it was already cooked). I also cubed and boiled 2 potatos and 3 carrots and when they were cooked I tossed those in the crock. I added 1 sauteed onion and 1/2 a cup of frozen corn & 1/2 a cup of frozen peas. I seasoned w/ salt, pepper, garlic powder, oregano, parsley and worsteshire (sp?) sauce and some country bob's sauce. I added a little water so it wouldn't burn on the bottom of the crock and it was pretty good. Probably would have been yummier over rice but we are all out. The kids ate a little and then we went outside to play in the water at 4:30. Bob got home at 5:30 and I brought out some more food. They ate a little more. Then at 6pm we did showers and 6:30 bedtime for Jackson and 7:30 bedtime for Amber. Now Bob's back at work working out and I'm sitting around blogging.
I can't wait to see my friend Caletta tomorrow. She flew in from AZ and we always have such a good time hanging out! I hope my kids are half way decent tomorrow.
My children decided that today was an awesome day not to nap. Thankfully around 1pm they did finally fall asleep for a little while. I was able to set up the water table and pool in the back yard. We had this strange meat concoction that I made for dinner that I thought was good. The kids hated it. I cooked a pan of ground beef and tossed it in the crock pot on warm (not cook since it was already cooked). I also cubed and boiled 2 potatos and 3 carrots and when they were cooked I tossed those in the crock. I added 1 sauteed onion and 1/2 a cup of frozen corn & 1/2 a cup of frozen peas. I seasoned w/ salt, pepper, garlic powder, oregano, parsley and worsteshire (sp?) sauce and some country bob's sauce. I added a little water so it wouldn't burn on the bottom of the crock and it was pretty good. Probably would have been yummier over rice but we are all out. The kids ate a little and then we went outside to play in the water at 4:30. Bob got home at 5:30 and I brought out some more food. They ate a little more. Then at 6pm we did showers and 6:30 bedtime for Jackson and 7:30 bedtime for Amber. Now Bob's back at work working out and I'm sitting around blogging.
I can't wait to see my friend Caletta tomorrow. She flew in from AZ and we always have such a good time hanging out! I hope my kids are half way decent tomorrow.
This next week is gonna fly by
I feel like our entire summer is flying by but this next week is really going to be busy. My best friend (and the Godmother to my children) is coming in town tomorrow. We will be meeting up w/ my sister and her fiance, then we'll have lunch & go to the outlets. I think Wednesday we'll take the kids to a childrens museum or lil monkey bizness to burn off some energy. Thursday my mother in law usually takes the kids for about 3 hours and watches them at her house down the road so I can get some necessary cleaning done. I don't know if she will this week or not. Friday I need to get things in order for Saturday. Saturday is my sister's graduation/engagement announcement party. I am making the announcement table and the sangria. My husband and I are also bringing the food, cooler and additional seating apparently. My mom the party thrower thought that 21 people would suffice w/ 1 case of water and a 2 liter of pepsi. Awesome. So I was asked to hijack this party and help it out. I LOVE throwing parties so this is actually fun for me. Saturday is my husband's niece's 3rd or 4th birthday party. I mean, she's 4 but they are having like 3, 4 or 5 parties for her. We've already been to one. It's ridiculous. This one will be at chuck e cheese. Then Monday is my mom's company White Sox outting and we are taking our daughter to it. I don't know how long she'll last. We'll see. We need a sitter for our son still.
Holy Heat wave Batman
It is just way to hot outside. I just got the kids pool set up, cleaned our pool, put water in the water table and watered the plants that were begging for a drink. One I think might have received it's drink a bit to late though. R.I.P Hanging plant.
My gremlins didn't want to nap this morning so we went to super walmart. Going to Walmart alone is stressful. Trying to find parking, trying to get a shopping cart, working my way through the crowds, giving up on the deli because the only deli worker is staring aimlessly at nothing rather then helping the people in line waiting for their fresh cut meat or cheese. The depression of realizing about 80% of your shopping list is not available because they do not restock the shelves. Ok....so now do that with two kids who have not napped. One who wants to "walk like a big kid" and aimlessly walks into people and climbs the shelves. $106 later we got everything we needed from walmart except for the new MGD 64 w/ lemonaid. I saw it, but not in a 6 pack and I'm not devoting myself to a case if I do not know what it tastes like and the only summer shandy 6 pack was conveniently a 5 pack. Hmmmmm? How did that one slip past security? I bet they were to busy watching the deli woman who was watching NOTHING to notice a random stranger take a beer and drink it in the store.
After Walmart we stopped at White Castles. I am trying to eat healthy and the advertisements about those loaded cheese fries are not helping. I finally broke down and ordered some and they are not as good as I thought they would be. They are also not as good as my neighbor told me they would be. Amber ate all of her chicken rings and wanted more, so I made her chicken nuggets at home, she ate 2 of those. Jackson basically squished his slider and threw it at the dog. Carl was really happy to get the slider. I am not happy w/ the gas the slider has caused Carl to have. Of course on a day where the heat borders on animal cruelty to allow him to pass his obnoxious gas outside. So does this mean he is inflicting human cruelty by polluting my air w/ his ass toxins? Nothing that comes out of a 110lb rottweilers ass is pleasant BTW.
So just as I get everything set up in the back yard the wind picks up & the sun disappears. I am thankful for this, not for the "severe weather" that is predicted to hit us "anytime" now.
It's nearly 3pm and I am trying to figure out what to make for dinner. I have no desire to cook dinner and the only thing defrosted is a roll of ground chuck. I don't want to turn my oven on since my house is a heat trap, I have to keep the a/c at 72 to maintain 76 in here and that's with every fan we own running on high. So turning the oven on will put us up into the 80's for sure. My daughter basically won't eat beef so I know she won't be eating dinner tonight. I'll be slicing up some green pepper for her. My husband won't eat anything tomato based (except for this ridiculous irish spaghetti crap his family came up with like 25 years ago) and he also rolls his eyes at me if any dish contains rice. Lately I have gotten complains about potatos and chicken as well..........
I hate cooking for these people! My son will throw food at me, my daughter will shove it away and say "can't wan't this mommy" and after politely choking down a plate of food my husband will say "that was terrible"...........why do I try? I guess since Jackson is now up I should take him outside to play before we get blown away in this impending severe weather (at least we will be able to breath fresh air outside rather then slider ass from Carl). Not quite sure how long we'll last in 97 and muggy but we'll see.
My gremlins didn't want to nap this morning so we went to super walmart. Going to Walmart alone is stressful. Trying to find parking, trying to get a shopping cart, working my way through the crowds, giving up on the deli because the only deli worker is staring aimlessly at nothing rather then helping the people in line waiting for their fresh cut meat or cheese. The depression of realizing about 80% of your shopping list is not available because they do not restock the shelves. Ok....so now do that with two kids who have not napped. One who wants to "walk like a big kid" and aimlessly walks into people and climbs the shelves. $106 later we got everything we needed from walmart except for the new MGD 64 w/ lemonaid. I saw it, but not in a 6 pack and I'm not devoting myself to a case if I do not know what it tastes like and the only summer shandy 6 pack was conveniently a 5 pack. Hmmmmm? How did that one slip past security? I bet they were to busy watching the deli woman who was watching NOTHING to notice a random stranger take a beer and drink it in the store.
After Walmart we stopped at White Castles. I am trying to eat healthy and the advertisements about those loaded cheese fries are not helping. I finally broke down and ordered some and they are not as good as I thought they would be. They are also not as good as my neighbor told me they would be. Amber ate all of her chicken rings and wanted more, so I made her chicken nuggets at home, she ate 2 of those. Jackson basically squished his slider and threw it at the dog. Carl was really happy to get the slider. I am not happy w/ the gas the slider has caused Carl to have. Of course on a day where the heat borders on animal cruelty to allow him to pass his obnoxious gas outside. So does this mean he is inflicting human cruelty by polluting my air w/ his ass toxins? Nothing that comes out of a 110lb rottweilers ass is pleasant BTW.
So just as I get everything set up in the back yard the wind picks up & the sun disappears. I am thankful for this, not for the "severe weather" that is predicted to hit us "anytime" now.
It's nearly 3pm and I am trying to figure out what to make for dinner. I have no desire to cook dinner and the only thing defrosted is a roll of ground chuck. I don't want to turn my oven on since my house is a heat trap, I have to keep the a/c at 72 to maintain 76 in here and that's with every fan we own running on high. So turning the oven on will put us up into the 80's for sure. My daughter basically won't eat beef so I know she won't be eating dinner tonight. I'll be slicing up some green pepper for her. My husband won't eat anything tomato based (except for this ridiculous irish spaghetti crap his family came up with like 25 years ago) and he also rolls his eyes at me if any dish contains rice. Lately I have gotten complains about potatos and chicken as well..........
I hate cooking for these people! My son will throw food at me, my daughter will shove it away and say "can't wan't this mommy" and after politely choking down a plate of food my husband will say "that was terrible"...........why do I try? I guess since Jackson is now up I should take him outside to play before we get blown away in this impending severe weather (at least we will be able to breath fresh air outside rather then slider ass from Carl). Not quite sure how long we'll last in 97 and muggy but we'll see.
Sunday, July 17, 2011
My life
I had a bunch of blogs and realized I was just ranting every day. They were lengthy and even annoying to me. So I decided to just do one blog & get it out in the open and try to be done with it.
My sister: Not much to say. She just graduated college. She's looking for a teaching job. She lives an hour away. She just got engaged. She is doing her own thing. I don't rely on her to help w/ the kids. She see's them about once a month.
My mom: I don't know how she functions. She always says "I raised my kids" but that's not true. My grandma raised us. Even her own friends will say that. She doesn't help w/ my kids. She has had my daughter 4 x's over night since she's been born. She does not just randomly watch her so I can get stuff done. She is awkward around the kids and doesn't seem to know what she's doing. She has a well paying job that she's been at for 13 years and has a college education and always praises herself on how smart she is but she can't figure out how to use a fountain machine at McDonalds. Book smarts is about where it ends w/ my mom (and my sister is the same way!)
My daughter: she'll be 3 soon. She's a hyper little attitude filled nut but I love her! She's the best!
My son: he'll be 2 in April and he's a ball of hate. He walks around yelling at everything and screaming most of the day. He is a tornado and doesn't stop. He's my special little man and I couldn't imagine my life w/ out his chaos!
My husband: He is a hard worker. Sometimes we joke that we don't see each other in the winter because he will work a 12 hour day & then snow plow all night. He's an awesome provider. He takes on a lot of stress & is on high blood pressure pills. He works for his family and his mom causes him way to much personal stress at work. Some days he comes home and just wants to sit quietly because of how stressful working with his family is. He has tested for various FD's and PD's in hopes of moving, but he's only on call lists....so for now, we are stuck w/ him not being so happy with work and having to deal with more then necessary.
Myself: I am currently a SAHM, I miss working but with my husbands insane schedule, it is impossible for me to work. I cannot have a night job because of if one of his employees doesn't show up, he has to go back to work and that leaves me taking care of the kids. During the winter months I am at the mercy of snow. So once the kids go to elementary school I'll be hopefully finding a part time job. I have not had an easy life. My father was abusive. I lost my 1st tooth because he hit me that hard in the back of the head. My mom stood back and didn't seem to care. They would seperate often. My grandma basically raised me (she past away July 30, 2010). I helped raise my sister who is 9 years younger then me. By Junior High I was cooking dinner, doing laundry, doing the dishes and cleaning the house. I would get scrutinized for my academics falling behind but I didn't have time for them. By my freshman year my mom told me my ass was as big as the couch (I was 140lbs) and I then suffered from annorexia. She took me to a dr. to have me evaluated & I was threatened w/ an eating clinic. I began working out 2 hours a night (minimum) and weighing myself at least a dozen times a day. My outlet was sports. I started playing V.B just to get out of the house. I only went to college part time because my mom expected me to pay rent and have a job. I ended up not even getting my associates. I began working FT and moved out with a rommmate. I've been out of the house since I was 19. My mom and I do not have a good relationship. I worked 2 jobs at one point (70 hours a week) just to make ends meet while she was traveling all over and taking my sister to hawaii, disney and other nice places. I vowed when I had kids I'd be a better mom. I met my husband in 2004, we were engaged in 2005 and married in 2006. I suffered from an ectopic in 2007, and a m/c a few months later. 5 mo. after that I conceived my daughter and then she was born in 2008. My son was born in 2010. I lost baby #3 on June 1, 2010, I was possibly exposed to fifths disease. I was 12 weeks pregnant. We are currently ttc baby #3.
I feel like I do not have anyone I can really rely on. My family is not there for me and my husband works a lot. Sometimes I am very lonely. I have a best friend who lives an hour away and I love my cousins but they all live in southern Illinois. We wanted to move down there but just couldn't. My husband has job security working for his family.
My soon to be ex (evil) sister in law: she's the devil. I don't know how else to sum it up. she's an ER nurse at christ hospital and she's truely evil. She admitted to neglecting patients. So I know she's evil on a professional level as well as a personal level. She was nice to me until my husband and I got married. Then apparently her marriage wasn't doing so well so she decided to turn on me. She was going to my mother in law (MIL) and telling her lies. Just stupid lies like I was mean to her, I was calling & emailing her & being mean, she'd try to talk to me and I refused. I had no idea this was going on and couldn't figure out why MIL was being so cold to me. (BTW, this isn't MIL's daughter, this is her son's soon to be ex wife!). MIL would come to work & yell at my husband saying he needed to get involved that this all needed to be fixed. We had no clue what she was talking about. My hubby ended up on high blood pressure meds. It was a mess. Everytime I tried to talk to my MIL she treated me as if I was the liar. My soon to be ex sister in law started dating my neighbor & came over drunk one night and fessed up to everything, that she was manipulating my MIL because she was miserable and her marriage was failing so she wanted us miserable and for our marriage to fail too. she said she got the "bad" son and was ticked that I got the one that wouldn't cheat (her husband cheated on her. But come on, she met him 'cause she was the other woman, what did she expect? once a cheater always a cheater!). My husband told all of this to my MIL and she still was on Heather's side and refused to believe us. Then I was at my MIL's house and DD was hanging like a monkey on my arm and I was holding her hand as she jumped off the 1 step that goes down to the sunken living room & her arm got dislocated! It was insane. I rushed her to the pediatrician (he said he could fix it, no need fo rthe ER). MIL told Heather this story and then Heather was going around like it was hot gossip, like I abused my daughter. Even the pedi knew it was an accident. I was a hysterical mess over it. Seeing my daughter in pain was like a knife in my chest! Then Heather was spreading more rumors about my kids and then she broke up w/ our neighbor and wanted my MIL to take his things to work to give to my husband so he could return it! WTF? And MIL did it! So this woman can just have a house land on her for all I care, she's so mean. I try not to even let my kids play with her daughter, I don't care if they are cousins. Heather flat out told us she'll do whatever it takes to hurt us and destroy our lives. All because we have a happy marriage. And this is a person who takes care of people in an ER. I will never go to the hospital she works at.
My MIL: She's stupid. She is manipulated. I think she is 2 faced and I believe her to be a liar as much as my soon to be ex evil sister in law! I do not trust her. She takes sides w/ Heather and she doesn't care that Heather wished her one son dead in a fire (he's a firefighter). She is cold and I think she's a sorry excuse for a mom and though she is a good grandma, I do not trust her much. I cannot trust her because she lies to my face. she's there for us when we need her (if someone ends up in the hospital or if someone is sick) but other then that I try not to rely on her much because I was catching her in lies. We told her we didn't want Heather near our kids and she would arrange play dates behind our back. We catch her in lies on a weekly basis about Heather.
My Brother In Law: Firefighter. Cheater. Selfish. Only cares about himself and sometimes who he's dating. He was a terrible father and an alcoholic but he seems to be better now. His new girlfriend and him have quit drinking and he spends more quality time with his kid. He is not there when his family needs him. He never cared about the problems his wife (at the time) was causing and didn't care about the stress it was causing on his brother. He's basically a craptastic womanizer and he's kind of ugly too. Not quite sure how he would take home a different woman every night. When the family business flooded he was no where to be seen. My husband was awake for 2 days cleaning up water, and his brother...not around. BUT the business goes to both of them. So my husband his killing himself, and my brother in law still gets half even though he has no clue about anything and doesn't care what happens to the place.
My niece: I hardly call her that. When my sister has kids those will be my nieces and nephews. My husbands niece is a brat. It's all because of circumstance. Her mother teaches her to be mean and say mean things like "why do you hate my mommy" so she's obviously telling her people hate her. She is mean to my kids. She has temper tantrums. She has an attitude and I hate her around my kids. Everyone who meets her says it's a shame. It's a shame that someone so evil had a child because now she's just creating a little monster. Riley was once innocent, actually, she still is. She only knows what she's taught and she is not being taught well at all. She gets sick and her mom thinks she knows it all & doesn't take her to the dr. She had strep over 6 x's last winter, hand foot & mouth disease, fifths disease, an upper resp. that required her to be on breathing treatments and various other colds and her mom says "she's not sick" and ignores it. She has a problem w/ her foot & is supposed to wear special inserts otherwise she'll have a life of problems. She won't be able to run. She won't be able to participate in sports or hold down a job that requires her to stand for long. All she needs are inserts. But because her mother wants her to wear cute mary janes and flip flops (even though the pediatric orthopedic specialist told her never to put her in flip flops) she does not wear inserts. She should be in gym shoes all day, even when in the house w/ the inserts in the gym shoes. But her mom is selfish and wants her daughter to be fashionable and is ruining her for life. This poor child doesn't stand a chance.
My sister: Not much to say. She just graduated college. She's looking for a teaching job. She lives an hour away. She just got engaged. She is doing her own thing. I don't rely on her to help w/ the kids. She see's them about once a month.
My mom: I don't know how she functions. She always says "I raised my kids" but that's not true. My grandma raised us. Even her own friends will say that. She doesn't help w/ my kids. She has had my daughter 4 x's over night since she's been born. She does not just randomly watch her so I can get stuff done. She is awkward around the kids and doesn't seem to know what she's doing. She has a well paying job that she's been at for 13 years and has a college education and always praises herself on how smart she is but she can't figure out how to use a fountain machine at McDonalds. Book smarts is about where it ends w/ my mom (and my sister is the same way!)
My daughter: she'll be 3 soon. She's a hyper little attitude filled nut but I love her! She's the best!
My son: he'll be 2 in April and he's a ball of hate. He walks around yelling at everything and screaming most of the day. He is a tornado and doesn't stop. He's my special little man and I couldn't imagine my life w/ out his chaos!
My husband: He is a hard worker. Sometimes we joke that we don't see each other in the winter because he will work a 12 hour day & then snow plow all night. He's an awesome provider. He takes on a lot of stress & is on high blood pressure pills. He works for his family and his mom causes him way to much personal stress at work. Some days he comes home and just wants to sit quietly because of how stressful working with his family is. He has tested for various FD's and PD's in hopes of moving, but he's only on call lists....so for now, we are stuck w/ him not being so happy with work and having to deal with more then necessary.
Myself: I am currently a SAHM, I miss working but with my husbands insane schedule, it is impossible for me to work. I cannot have a night job because of if one of his employees doesn't show up, he has to go back to work and that leaves me taking care of the kids. During the winter months I am at the mercy of snow. So once the kids go to elementary school I'll be hopefully finding a part time job. I have not had an easy life. My father was abusive. I lost my 1st tooth because he hit me that hard in the back of the head. My mom stood back and didn't seem to care. They would seperate often. My grandma basically raised me (she past away July 30, 2010). I helped raise my sister who is 9 years younger then me. By Junior High I was cooking dinner, doing laundry, doing the dishes and cleaning the house. I would get scrutinized for my academics falling behind but I didn't have time for them. By my freshman year my mom told me my ass was as big as the couch (I was 140lbs) and I then suffered from annorexia. She took me to a dr. to have me evaluated & I was threatened w/ an eating clinic. I began working out 2 hours a night (minimum) and weighing myself at least a dozen times a day. My outlet was sports. I started playing V.B just to get out of the house. I only went to college part time because my mom expected me to pay rent and have a job. I ended up not even getting my associates. I began working FT and moved out with a rommmate. I've been out of the house since I was 19. My mom and I do not have a good relationship. I worked 2 jobs at one point (70 hours a week) just to make ends meet while she was traveling all over and taking my sister to hawaii, disney and other nice places. I vowed when I had kids I'd be a better mom. I met my husband in 2004, we were engaged in 2005 and married in 2006. I suffered from an ectopic in 2007, and a m/c a few months later. 5 mo. after that I conceived my daughter and then she was born in 2008. My son was born in 2010. I lost baby #3 on June 1, 2010, I was possibly exposed to fifths disease. I was 12 weeks pregnant. We are currently ttc baby #3.
I feel like I do not have anyone I can really rely on. My family is not there for me and my husband works a lot. Sometimes I am very lonely. I have a best friend who lives an hour away and I love my cousins but they all live in southern Illinois. We wanted to move down there but just couldn't. My husband has job security working for his family.
My soon to be ex (evil) sister in law: she's the devil. I don't know how else to sum it up. she's an ER nurse at christ hospital and she's truely evil. She admitted to neglecting patients. So I know she's evil on a professional level as well as a personal level. She was nice to me until my husband and I got married. Then apparently her marriage wasn't doing so well so she decided to turn on me. She was going to my mother in law (MIL) and telling her lies. Just stupid lies like I was mean to her, I was calling & emailing her & being mean, she'd try to talk to me and I refused. I had no idea this was going on and couldn't figure out why MIL was being so cold to me. (BTW, this isn't MIL's daughter, this is her son's soon to be ex wife!). MIL would come to work & yell at my husband saying he needed to get involved that this all needed to be fixed. We had no clue what she was talking about. My hubby ended up on high blood pressure meds. It was a mess. Everytime I tried to talk to my MIL she treated me as if I was the liar. My soon to be ex sister in law started dating my neighbor & came over drunk one night and fessed up to everything, that she was manipulating my MIL because she was miserable and her marriage was failing so she wanted us miserable and for our marriage to fail too. she said she got the "bad" son and was ticked that I got the one that wouldn't cheat (her husband cheated on her. But come on, she met him 'cause she was the other woman, what did she expect? once a cheater always a cheater!). My husband told all of this to my MIL and she still was on Heather's side and refused to believe us. Then I was at my MIL's house and DD was hanging like a monkey on my arm and I was holding her hand as she jumped off the 1 step that goes down to the sunken living room & her arm got dislocated! It was insane. I rushed her to the pediatrician (he said he could fix it, no need fo rthe ER). MIL told Heather this story and then Heather was going around like it was hot gossip, like I abused my daughter. Even the pedi knew it was an accident. I was a hysterical mess over it. Seeing my daughter in pain was like a knife in my chest! Then Heather was spreading more rumors about my kids and then she broke up w/ our neighbor and wanted my MIL to take his things to work to give to my husband so he could return it! WTF? And MIL did it! So this woman can just have a house land on her for all I care, she's so mean. I try not to even let my kids play with her daughter, I don't care if they are cousins. Heather flat out told us she'll do whatever it takes to hurt us and destroy our lives. All because we have a happy marriage. And this is a person who takes care of people in an ER. I will never go to the hospital she works at.
My MIL: She's stupid. She is manipulated. I think she is 2 faced and I believe her to be a liar as much as my soon to be ex evil sister in law! I do not trust her. She takes sides w/ Heather and she doesn't care that Heather wished her one son dead in a fire (he's a firefighter). She is cold and I think she's a sorry excuse for a mom and though she is a good grandma, I do not trust her much. I cannot trust her because she lies to my face. she's there for us when we need her (if someone ends up in the hospital or if someone is sick) but other then that I try not to rely on her much because I was catching her in lies. We told her we didn't want Heather near our kids and she would arrange play dates behind our back. We catch her in lies on a weekly basis about Heather.
My Brother In Law: Firefighter. Cheater. Selfish. Only cares about himself and sometimes who he's dating. He was a terrible father and an alcoholic but he seems to be better now. His new girlfriend and him have quit drinking and he spends more quality time with his kid. He is not there when his family needs him. He never cared about the problems his wife (at the time) was causing and didn't care about the stress it was causing on his brother. He's basically a craptastic womanizer and he's kind of ugly too. Not quite sure how he would take home a different woman every night. When the family business flooded he was no where to be seen. My husband was awake for 2 days cleaning up water, and his brother...not around. BUT the business goes to both of them. So my husband his killing himself, and my brother in law still gets half even though he has no clue about anything and doesn't care what happens to the place.
My niece: I hardly call her that. When my sister has kids those will be my nieces and nephews. My husbands niece is a brat. It's all because of circumstance. Her mother teaches her to be mean and say mean things like "why do you hate my mommy" so she's obviously telling her people hate her. She is mean to my kids. She has temper tantrums. She has an attitude and I hate her around my kids. Everyone who meets her says it's a shame. It's a shame that someone so evil had a child because now she's just creating a little monster. Riley was once innocent, actually, she still is. She only knows what she's taught and she is not being taught well at all. She gets sick and her mom thinks she knows it all & doesn't take her to the dr. She had strep over 6 x's last winter, hand foot & mouth disease, fifths disease, an upper resp. that required her to be on breathing treatments and various other colds and her mom says "she's not sick" and ignores it. She has a problem w/ her foot & is supposed to wear special inserts otherwise she'll have a life of problems. She won't be able to run. She won't be able to participate in sports or hold down a job that requires her to stand for long. All she needs are inserts. But because her mother wants her to wear cute mary janes and flip flops (even though the pediatric orthopedic specialist told her never to put her in flip flops) she does not wear inserts. She should be in gym shoes all day, even when in the house w/ the inserts in the gym shoes. But her mom is selfish and wants her daughter to be fashionable and is ruining her for life. This poor child doesn't stand a chance.
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